In a previous post I shared three questions I received, and answered one. Here are replies to the other two.
Why can only love for and from God fulfill the Self’s need for love?
The individual soul is finite. Finite means limited. We cannot understand and appreciate every aspect, every minute nuance, of another’s personality, thoughts, desires, and needs.
Even our primary and reliable method of communication, words, completely fail us when we try to share an exact feeling—every complexity of it, how it mixes with other feelings, how it relates to all aspects of our experience and personality.
Each of us is unique. Unique loveliness. Who can understand our complex uniqueness which is not duplicated anywhere else in the world?
Only one who understands us, exactly as we perceive our self, can make our heart sing through a loving relationship exactly suited to our temperament, concept of pleasure, and the vast construct of our individuality.
The Divine is infinite. Only God is capable of the mystic feat of knowing us exactly as we are. There is no barrier between his knowing and feeling and our knowing and feeling. This enables him to reciprocate each thought, each action, each desire with piercing accuracy according to our needs and wants.
Why can’t our unconditional love and compassion in relationships with others fulfill the need of the Soul?
To a very large degree we can be fulfilled by unconditional love from another person.
Come from Your Heart; See with Your Heart
We are spiritual Beings—every one of us. The way we draw out genuine love consistently is to approach relationships with a clear view of our spiritual identity and make daily reference to this vision. We must cultivate this vision, see with the heart—sometimes every few minutes when someone is really annoying us!
Each of us is worthy of unconditional love.
What happens when we love others like this?
They begin to understand their worthiness. From the love I have received from friends and family I’ve gained an awareness that if they can love me unconditionally, then certainly the Divine can. By experiencing unconditional love, people generally will want to share it with others. Give, and unconditional love will increase your self worth, other’s self worth, and will likely springboard others into bringing that gift to their other relationships.
Practicing Unconditional Love
Love wielded incorrectly, inappropriately, or immaturely can wreak havoc. Love must be handled with discretion, intelligence, and compassion, and in practical terms, ever fluid in its search for true and pure expression.
While we do not leave discrimination aside, we practice drawing up the feeling of unconditional love.
For women who have had children and their maternal instincts kicked in it’s a simple matter of remembering those feelings. For those who have never had a maternal experience, then examining the nature of other’s maternal expression may help point the way. We can also look at any relationship that we feel most loving and meditate on expressing more love in a pure, selfless way (not self-negating way).
Practice builds up our heart muscle, our heart intelligence, our heart feeling. We can learn how to handle love, and it requires conscious handling. With this intent, our heart opens more and more to its natural state. Each step toward loving fully is more joyful than the previous. We soften the heart a little more each time we extend selfless love, until it is like whipped butter which spreads deliciously, warmly, avoiding artificial imitation.
As you know, I consider the avenue of developing authentic love for our Self and others on top of the list for a spiritual life.
Considering that we all live with others on a daily basis, and how important relationships are in our lives and as a spiritual path, the closer we come to spiritually loving others, the closer we come to self fulfillment.
Love is a wonderful, self-perpetuating commodity.